FORGIVE any and every person who have done you wrong. Holding on to anger only effects self, in a negative way. No one should be given that much power over your emotions.
Let’s talk about forgiveness and what it really means. In my opinion, forgiveness is releasing resentment towards the person who has harmed you. It doesn’t matter if they deserve it, forgiveness is for your peace of mind.
Forgiveness is letting go of the need to punish a person because they have offended you in a negative way. But we must understand that with forgiveness brings healing. Healing should be more important than holding on to a grudge. We must learn to let go of emotional bondage so that positive energy can flow through us freely.
Let’s look at it from a different perspective.. most times when people have harmed you it has more to do with how they feel about themselves. A lot of people are hurting inside which makes it hard for them to give love & light. If someone doesn’t like them self, it is difficult to like others because they can’t see past their own hurt. Not saying you should excuse their behavior, but it’s better not to react to their negativity. Tell them to have a nice day and MOVE ON!
Forgiving someone doesn’t always mean having a friendship with them again, it’s not wise to give them permission to hurt you again. True forgiveness happens in your heart, knowing you can heal and move on peacefully. Don’t worry in time you will heal. Truth be told, it can be difficult to release toxic people out of your life; BUT IT IS NECESSARY!
Say it with me, I’m renewed, my past doesn’t dictate my future. I choose GROWTH & HEALING!
Here are some ways to help with forgiving:
SAY A PRAYER
Prayers helps us to let go of ego. In all decisions we make, we must remain humble. Pray for the person who has harmed you, that they find their way back to a happier place. And you do the same, quickly find your way back to happier place as well.
FOCUS ON GRATITUDE
When you start to think about how someone has done you wrong, instead count your blessings. Make a list of all of the things you appreciate about yourself and the world. Purposely end your day on a good note, focus on gratitude.
LOOK FOR THE LESSON
Hugh difficulties can be a sign that you’re an old soul. You know the bigger the misfortunes, the closer you are to enlightenment/healing. You may lack in patience, compassion, or open-mindedness. Difficulties may come to test your character, and will come to strengthen you. Next time someone brings negativity in your space, ask yourself, what is the lesson that need to be learned.
The lesson could just be to stay away from assholes, lol… ANYWAY, develop a “student not victim” mentality.
LET GO OF RESENTMENT
When you resent someone, the person you are really hurting is yourself. This is an example of how energy works. Putting out bad vibes only bring bad vibes to yourself. So it’s best to wish them well and move on. Plus, resentment gives the person who has harmed you control of your emotions.
STAY CENTERED
I’ve realized that if I respond with hate to hate, anger to anger, I become part of the problem. AND I don’t want no problems. So I try my best not to become like them, instead I try to make an effort to remain a loving, soulful, happy person.
So there you have it, MY FRIENDS! Stay focused on highly positive thoughts. Be like water, just flow easily and freely.